Trust & Support

Do you feel supported by life?
It’s a big question. 

I love the idea that life happens to us. That we are being directed by a director. Your director can be whoever you appoint. Someone or something much bigger than you. 

I love the idea that I am a wave and my director is the ocean. The ocean is smart. It reads the tides, knows what’s happening and directs me as to where I need to be and whether I need to be big or small or low or high.

If you have had a moment when the ‘world has let you down’, then trusting life will not be that easy. The same as if you have had a person let you down you won’t find trusting humans so easy.

The easiest way to trust someone is to trust them. I work on a 100% trust process. I meet you, if I decide to take you into my life then you have 100% of my trust. Not trusting someone is exhausting. You have to second guess, follow them up or around and waste your precious energy keeping tabs on them.

I have always trusted my teenagers. I trust them until I don't. I trust them until they fuck up. And they do fuck up. That's all part of exploring and learning and working out who they are. I ask them where they are going. They tell me and then I turn up there. They are not there. Trust broken. Consequences.

Giving your children, partner or staff your trust should make them try harder! Trust is precious and people with integrity will want to honour the trust you have given them. People without integrity can go.

The way to decide if people get into your life pen is your intuition. How do you feel about this person? Do your spidery senses go off or do you feel ‘safe’ and great around them?

A wee while ago, I had a couple of people come into my world whom I did not trust. They felt off to me. I was pushed by some others to let them into my trust circle. To open myself up to them. It felt wrong. But for the ‘greater good of a group’ I pushed through. And guess what! They were untrustworthy. They were not safe. They did not have good intentions and my swirly gut had been right all along. I was incredibly angry. I was incredibly hurt. Mostly, I was angry at myself. Angry that I did not trust myself. Angry that I had let myself down.

After we get burnt by people, it’s easy to decide not to trust others. I think a better decision is to trust yourself more. I am much more careful when I am weary of someone now. I listen when my gut wants to protect my heart.

"Intuition will tell the thinking mind where to look next." 
Jonas Salk