Loving Yourself

Learning to like the person that we are, I believe, is some of the most important work that we can do in our lives. There is no doubt that we are stuck with ourselves. The relationship that we have with ourselves is without a doubt the most powerful one.

We cannot get away! There is a lot to learn and a lot to understand. We need to make peace with our bodies, we need to understand our minds and we need to connect with our souls.

You and your body are in an arranged marriage. It's time to commit to what your body needs and wants to make your life work. Rolling around in a body you hate, one that isn’t fit for purpose is not a wonderful way to live.

Living with a nasty bitch in your head will also not be easy. The way we speak to ourselves, the pressure we put ourselves under has to stop. Our self-talk is shocking - things that we would never say to another person we say to ourselves - often all day. We call ourselves, fat & stupid & ugly & many other horrible things. Hanging out all day with a nasty, unhappy and negative person can really affect the way you feel about yourself. When it comes to self-love, we are literally our own worst enemy!

I believe that we owe ourselves the love that we freely give to other people. Treating yourself like a friend is a great start. If a friend was having a hard time, what would you do? Would you call her fat and force her to keep going or would you be gentle and make her some soup and tell her to go back to bed?

“When a woman becomes her own best friend, her life gets easier.”
Diane von Fustenberg 

I have been a people-pleasing rescuer most of my life. Sacrificing myself for the benefit of others - many who didn’t even ask to be saved! So that I could live up to the bullshit criteria I built in my brain. 

I am grateful that I started working on myself early. I have done years and years of ‘development’. I have now worked out what’s important and what really matters.  What matters is YOU. Your life depends on YOU. Your family depend on YOU. 

You are all that you have got. You have got to change the way you think, talk, and treat yourself.

Learning to like ourselves, learning what makes us happy and learning to acknowledge and forgive the bits that we don’t like - is super powerful. It’s the most important work you can do. It makes you better and it makes everyone around you better as well.

“A mother who radiates self-love & self -acceptance vaccinates her daughter against low self-esteem.”
- Naomi Wolf

When we live in constant comparison and never feel good enough, our self-belief erodes away. Have you got a leak in your self-love tank? 

A bubble bath and a new top won’t fix it. Changing the way you think is what’s required.  We all have beliefs that limit us. Finding these and doing something about them is the answer.

Too many people go from discover to blame, from aware to shame. We need to acknowledge how we feel and then get on with taking the action required to change.

During the first 14 days of February, I am on a mission to get more people to love who they are. If you’re up for the challenge you can do it too - it’s Free!
Each day, you will be sent a challenge to create space and do something for YOU. 

Two weeks of honouring you. 
Two weeks of thinking about you. 

Now is the time! You have put away the Christmas tree, packed up the family holiday, and got the kids ready for school - now it's time for you.
You and me. It's free - join me for 14 days of self-love.