Compromise

How would you live if you could live any way you chose?

Would you live alone or with others?
Would you have pets and plants?
Would you have a tiny space or a big space?
What colour would you paint your walls? 
What would your rooms look like?

I love stepping out of reality and into possibility with questions like these. Allowing yourself to imagine things that currently seem impossible is so good for our heads. It expands your mind and allows you to visualise a different way of being.

Getting stuck and accepting where you have landed is an easy thing to do. We collect people and responsibilities as we age and it's very easy to wake up and not recognise your life.

Merging lives with other people can cause us to lose who we are. The art of compromise can cause us to completely lose our identity. Who were you before you entered your current relationship or became a parent?

We can compromise ourselves emotionally and mentally but also physically.

Does your house look like you live there? 
Is it filled with things that you love? 
Do you have a space that feels like you?
Do you wear clothes that you love? or do you cover your body just to be legal and hope that no one notices you?

The first step is to wonder - to open a room in your head that is just for possibility.

The second step is to make a small move. 

To change something. To shoot an arrow across the bow of your current life that physically shows that your life is on the move!

This could be a new haircut or colour or a painted wall. Something that might not even be noticed by others but it is a step for you to head towards the life you want to live rather than one you might have found yourself in.

Step three is a little bolder - it could be moving house, it could be a new job. It's a physical and mental shift away from what you no longer want.

Compromise is giving up a little bit of yourself to please others. It can be a wonderful energy except when it's all you do. If compromise are the pants you are wearing daily, then you will feel worn down.

Maybe you were 'conned into your career' by people who you thought knew what was right for you.
Maybe you live somewhere 'because it made sense at the time'.
Maybe you are living in a way that no longer suits you but hadn't realised until you read this!

Redesigning ourselves is essential. 
Staying the same is not living, it is existing.

My Repotted Retreat is designed for people who want to design their lives. For people who want to spend three days wondering and playing with possibilities. It’s a magical process where people work out their worth and make decisions to be who they were before their world became a blur of activity and doing for others!